Sunshine,
You're hurt, betrayed, holding onto recesses of anger, in doubt of your selfworth, you need an escape. You go through your mind looking for where exactly you went wrong, Asking yourself "Why the nice girls Suffer most" You feel it's not fair that you put your all out there and it still isn't appreciated.
We live in a society where being nice is regarded as a sort of weakness, where most people are unnecessarily mean and rude. Anyone willing to lend a helping hand, a nice word when one is down, willing to lend without constantly demanding repayment is regarded as naive. You put their needs before yours more times than one, You love wholeheartedly, and give so fully that eventually you forget yourself. You feel Guilty when you aren't able to help someone. You feel bad when you unintentionally hurt someone and you become more broken when you realize you can't fix it.
You cry yourself to bed over the hurt, And promise yourself that you'll do them like they did you, that you won't help anyone since when you were at your lowest no one blinked an eye, You promise to ignore them just as they did you, You promise to not let them faze you, You promise to not open up your heart to anyone. You promise yourself that this time around you get yourself hurt, that you won't cry because of anyone any longer.
Time passes and your anger fades, to be replaced by guilt. You feel bad that you could have such hateful thoughts. You feel guilty and end up making excuses for the person that hurt you. You chastise yourself for not finding out the root of their actions and just going on to judge them. Even after all these, time and again, you're hurt and the process starts all over again.
You have probably been told to ditch the good girl behavior and become a tough ass, to not give in when approached, to not let anyone in, to slam the doors of your heart so shut that air wouldn't pass through. One thing they fail to understand though is that Your behavior isn't a piece of clothe that can be taken off and replaced, They do not understand that this is you, that this is who you are and you can't change it. Some others though feel perfectly comfortable with you being your "Gullible" self, because they get to take advantage of you. You know when you are being used but you can't find it in yourself to speak up for fear of hurting someone's feelings or of being challenged and chastised.
I'll give you a piece of advice.
It's okay to Say No. Yes, you heard me, it's alright to refuse once in a while if genuinely needed. It's not being selfish but you need to take care of yourself. If you know you do not have enough, save it so you too do not fall in need. Rather than giving someone your last bread, help that person manage his or her own. It's okay to refuse because being . and its also cool that you are sensible enough to take care of yourself and your needs too.
Do not make Excuses for mean people. Although sometimes actually the person might be going through something, but that doesn't justify treating others like shit. When you're annoyed, don't try to put the blame on yourself. You shouldn't play the victim card or villain card either, you are just two people caught up in an unfortunate misunderstanding. Do not, I repeat Do not feel bad about being annoyed if you are wrongly offended. The mature thing you do In such case would be to sit down and talk about it in a civilised manner. You are not a doormat!!
It's okay to have dreams, Big dreams and small alike. Some times you feel bad when you have bigger dreams, when you aren't satisfied with your workplace, when you aren't satisfied with your Household, and you feel guilty when your mind wanders. You love your family so much, they're your rocks, they have been there with you through it all, but your Father has no idea about how to save money and your Mother sleeps around. Despite their faults they have stood with you and it makes you sad that you could even think up a silent plea for Change. Your dad worked his butt off and was able to secure you a Job as a clerk at a publishing office but you have a law degree and you imagine yourself in a classy law firm. You chastise yourself that you can even think such when you apparently have been given the best.
Sweetheart, it's okay to want more, does it make you selfish, No! It just means that you're normal, because it's normal to wish for more. It's okay because that's what drives you to work harder, that's what motivates you, that's what gives you the zeal to enact it.
You've probably heard this over and over again and I'll tell you again, It's cool to be Nice. The nice girls don't always get the best of everything, but they get the ones that last. Do not be afraid and view happiness as illusive because you're down right now, It's all a Process.
Do not, I Repeat, Do not put yourself down, you're more than a young woman, You're awesome, you're strong, You're determined and You are Nice.
To the Girls Who can't stop Helping,
To the Girls Who can't stop Caring,
To the girls who can't stop giving,
To The girls that get broken Everytime,
You're Loved,
And We'll Survive.
From:
A Sister.
You're hurt, betrayed, holding onto recesses of anger, in doubt of your selfworth, you need an escape. You go through your mind looking for where exactly you went wrong, Asking yourself "Why the nice girls Suffer most" You feel it's not fair that you put your all out there and it still isn't appreciated.
We live in a society where being nice is regarded as a sort of weakness, where most people are unnecessarily mean and rude. Anyone willing to lend a helping hand, a nice word when one is down, willing to lend without constantly demanding repayment is regarded as naive. You put their needs before yours more times than one, You love wholeheartedly, and give so fully that eventually you forget yourself. You feel Guilty when you aren't able to help someone. You feel bad when you unintentionally hurt someone and you become more broken when you realize you can't fix it.
You cry yourself to bed over the hurt, And promise yourself that you'll do them like they did you, that you won't help anyone since when you were at your lowest no one blinked an eye, You promise to ignore them just as they did you, You promise to not let them faze you, You promise to not open up your heart to anyone. You promise yourself that this time around you get yourself hurt, that you won't cry because of anyone any longer.
Time passes and your anger fades, to be replaced by guilt. You feel bad that you could have such hateful thoughts. You feel guilty and end up making excuses for the person that hurt you. You chastise yourself for not finding out the root of their actions and just going on to judge them. Even after all these, time and again, you're hurt and the process starts all over again.
You have probably been told to ditch the good girl behavior and become a tough ass, to not give in when approached, to not let anyone in, to slam the doors of your heart so shut that air wouldn't pass through. One thing they fail to understand though is that Your behavior isn't a piece of clothe that can be taken off and replaced, They do not understand that this is you, that this is who you are and you can't change it. Some others though feel perfectly comfortable with you being your "Gullible" self, because they get to take advantage of you. You know when you are being used but you can't find it in yourself to speak up for fear of hurting someone's feelings or of being challenged and chastised.
I'll give you a piece of advice.
It's okay to Say No. Yes, you heard me, it's alright to refuse once in a while if genuinely needed. It's not being selfish but you need to take care of yourself. If you know you do not have enough, save it so you too do not fall in need. Rather than giving someone your last bread, help that person manage his or her own. It's okay to refuse because being . and its also cool that you are sensible enough to take care of yourself and your needs too.
Do not make Excuses for mean people. Although sometimes actually the person might be going through something, but that doesn't justify treating others like shit. When you're annoyed, don't try to put the blame on yourself. You shouldn't play the victim card or villain card either, you are just two people caught up in an unfortunate misunderstanding. Do not, I repeat Do not feel bad about being annoyed if you are wrongly offended. The mature thing you do In such case would be to sit down and talk about it in a civilised manner. You are not a doormat!!
It's okay to have dreams, Big dreams and small alike. Some times you feel bad when you have bigger dreams, when you aren't satisfied with your workplace, when you aren't satisfied with your Household, and you feel guilty when your mind wanders. You love your family so much, they're your rocks, they have been there with you through it all, but your Father has no idea about how to save money and your Mother sleeps around. Despite their faults they have stood with you and it makes you sad that you could even think up a silent plea for Change. Your dad worked his butt off and was able to secure you a Job as a clerk at a publishing office but you have a law degree and you imagine yourself in a classy law firm. You chastise yourself that you can even think such when you apparently have been given the best.
Sweetheart, it's okay to want more, does it make you selfish, No! It just means that you're normal, because it's normal to wish for more. It's okay because that's what drives you to work harder, that's what motivates you, that's what gives you the zeal to enact it.
You've probably heard this over and over again and I'll tell you again, It's cool to be Nice. The nice girls don't always get the best of everything, but they get the ones that last. Do not be afraid and view happiness as illusive because you're down right now, It's all a Process.
Do not, I Repeat, Do not put yourself down, you're more than a young woman, You're awesome, you're strong, You're determined and You are Nice.
To the Girls Who can't stop Helping,
To the Girls Who can't stop Caring,
To the girls who can't stop giving,
To The girls that get broken Everytime,
You're Loved,
And We'll Survive.
From:
A Sister.
An Open Letter To the Nice Girls
Reviewed by Shine
on
February 16, 2019
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Reviewed by Shine
on
February 16, 2019
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