We know about it, this isn't the first time we have heard about it and we have been told countless times not to mind what people say about us, not to listen to the crowd, not to pay any attention to whatever rubbish they say, because that's what it is, Rubbish!
So why then do we listen on? Why do we wear a particular blouse that we absolutely feel uncomfortable in -maybe it's a bit too vee, a bit too short- and hope that when they see it, they'll smile and maybe compliment? Why do we sometimes feel like the tears are about to fall simply because they snicker about our huge D cups? Why do we feel pressure Everytime we go into school, Work, church, or wherever said crowd are?
It can't be helped but we are human, we tend to let what happens around us affect us, and determine our productivity consequently. I want to share some Little Nuggets of wisdom to help you get through, to remind you that it's okay to not be socially acceptable, and for ways to just feel comfortable in your own skin.
1: Dress For Comfort
Most times ladies in order to fit a certain cliche carved out by ladies they find themselves unfortunately surrounded by would rather dress as though they were about to climb a runway while actually giving them a Jordan tracksuit and a pair of sneakers would drive them into a near orgasmic state. Do not let anyone decide what you have to wear, Wear what gives you joy and what makes you happy. Have it in mind that the people you intend to impress might actually never be impressed by you and will likely lead you on a psychological goose chase, searching for the impossible.
Most times ladies in order to fit a certain cliche carved out by ladies they find themselves unfortunately surrounded by would rather dress as though they were about to climb a runway while actually giving them a Jordan tracksuit and a pair of sneakers would drive them into a near orgasmic state. Do not let anyone decide what you have to wear, Wear what gives you joy and what makes you happy. Have it in mind that the people you intend to impress might actually never be impressed by you and will likely lead you on a psychological goose chase, searching for the impossible.
2: Eat Healthy, Exercise properly.
Some people actually skip meals so much it's become a norm. The reason for skipping meals varies from person to person. Some skip meals inorder to get thinner, while some skip meals unintentionally and end up looking malnourished even if the money's coming in. Nobody knows you better than you, if you're hungry, you eat. If you're are a thick eater, embrace it, if you lean towards salad, walk it with all confidence. The worst mistake you would make is starving in order to get a waist trim, once you go back to Eating you would be like a whale (Not a proven fact, my opinion based on observation). Excercise and If you feel you need a little push, register at a gym, or if you aren't so socially bugged, hire a personal trainer.
Some people actually skip meals so much it's become a norm. The reason for skipping meals varies from person to person. Some skip meals inorder to get thinner, while some skip meals unintentionally and end up looking malnourished even if the money's coming in. Nobody knows you better than you, if you're hungry, you eat. If you're are a thick eater, embrace it, if you lean towards salad, walk it with all confidence. The worst mistake you would make is starving in order to get a waist trim, once you go back to Eating you would be like a whale (Not a proven fact, my opinion based on observation). Excercise and If you feel you need a little push, register at a gym, or if you aren't so socially bugged, hire a personal trainer.
3: Get rid of bad habits.
You ever find yourself going through Facebook or any other social network and crying, you secretly stalk people, looking at pictures and feel like a looser because you cannot definitely afford a life like theirs? My Advice, Delete that account then uninstall the app. You're in a process of self recovery, looking at others living the dream life would only drive you farther from your pursuit. Go to bed early, if you find yourself tired, please sleep. Probably any work you do when your eyelids are already protesting would likely be useless and have to be looked over the next day, so why stress it? Start drinking enough water, always stay hydrated especially if you're having a long day.
You ever find yourself going through Facebook or any other social network and crying, you secretly stalk people, looking at pictures and feel like a looser because you cannot definitely afford a life like theirs? My Advice, Delete that account then uninstall the app. You're in a process of self recovery, looking at others living the dream life would only drive you farther from your pursuit. Go to bed early, if you find yourself tired, please sleep. Probably any work you do when your eyelids are already protesting would likely be useless and have to be looked over the next day, so why stress it? Start drinking enough water, always stay hydrated especially if you're having a long day.
3: Invest in Good books about Self worth.
Set your goal at atleat two books a year since you're likely swamped with school or work activities. My personal favorites are The One thing by Gary Keller and Don't sweat the small stuff by Richard Carlson. With this two books you can build your self esteem and understand that you are only a prisoner in your mind. Other suggestions are The power of positive thinking by Norman Vincent Peale, and I've Been Thinking, Reflections, Prayers, and Meditations for a Meaningful Life by Maria Shriver.
Set your goal at atleat two books a year since you're likely swamped with school or work activities. My personal favorites are The One thing by Gary Keller and Don't sweat the small stuff by Richard Carlson. With this two books you can build your self esteem and understand that you are only a prisoner in your mind. Other suggestions are The power of positive thinking by Norman Vincent Peale, and I've Been Thinking, Reflections, Prayers, and Meditations for a Meaningful Life by Maria Shriver.
4: Connect with Family and friends.
Nothing would cheer you more than being surrounded by the ones you love, because they are your biggest cheerleaders and they most definitely want to see you succeed. So take a break one weekend and drive home, if it's too far, always talk to them, use FaceTime, Duo, a lot of platforms where you can video call now, sometimes just hearing their voices is very reassuring. Have a Bestie's day out. Do not be afraid to pamper yourself, you work hard and you deserve it, spend an outrageous amount of money on a purse or something you honestly have always wanted to have, You deserve it. Once in awhile though, so you have enough money for the rainy days.
Nothing would cheer you more than being surrounded by the ones you love, because they are your biggest cheerleaders and they most definitely want to see you succeed. So take a break one weekend and drive home, if it's too far, always talk to them, use FaceTime, Duo, a lot of platforms where you can video call now, sometimes just hearing their voices is very reassuring. Have a Bestie's day out. Do not be afraid to pamper yourself, you work hard and you deserve it, spend an outrageous amount of money on a purse or something you honestly have always wanted to have, You deserve it. Once in awhile though, so you have enough money for the rainy days.
5: Above all, Be Happy!
Surround yourself with positivity and happiness, whatever ticks all your boxes as long as it's healthy and positive should be Held on to. This might not relate to you and generally night not apply to you and that's my disclaimer. But one thing that will always work is to make yourself Happy.
Surround yourself with positivity and happiness, whatever ticks all your boxes as long as it's healthy and positive should be Held on to. This might not relate to you and generally night not apply to you and that's my disclaimer. But one thing that will always work is to make yourself Happy.
Forget the Voices of people always demanding one thing or the other, the ones who get angry because you do not fit to the conform of the average girl, the ones whom see you as a sort of leech, Be who you are with pride, own it!
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Go where you are appreciated, not where you are tolerated.
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Go where you are appreciated, not where you are tolerated.
A lesson on Self Appreciation
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